This Is the Best Time to Have Sex (Hint: It’s Not at Night)

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Sex is a powerful thing. In addition to improving your mood, sex can also whittle your waistline. And new research shows it could even lengthen your life––check out how many times you need to have sex to slow down aging.

You already know that hormones have huge implications on your sex life, as well as the feelings you experience afterward and yes, even the pillow talk. Find out what post-sex pillow talk says about your relationship.

As it turns out, these hormones peak and valley throughout the day, and synchronizing yours with your partner’s could lead you to even more enjoyable sex than ever, according to hormone expert Alisa Vitti, founder of hormone center and author of the best-selling book WomanCode.

So what’s the best time to have sex? According to Vitti, it’s 3 p.m.

For women, this is when there is still adequate cortisol hormone, and brings with it energy to engage sexually. At the same time, men have declining levels of testosterone, which makes them more emotionally present during sex.

Vitti says the key to satisfying sex is for partners to find a way to use their hormonal self-awareness to schedule smarter for better sex. Many women use the app MyFLO to help them understand these partners for themselves and their partners to optimize romance. (Check out the 12 things sex therapists wish you knew).

Another good time for sex is the early-to-mid-morning when men’s testosterone—a hormone they produce during sleep—is highest. “Men are more interested in initiating sex during this window and are more capable of a better sexual response,” says Vitti.

Medically reviewed by Tia Jackson-Bey, MD, on September 25, 2019