The Real Reason Sex Is Better in Hotels

It's not the fresh linens.

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Hotel room sex isn’t just the norm for honeymooning couples. According to a 2018 survey from Hotel Tonight, almost half of Americans believe sex is better in hotels. It’s not necessarily the fresh linen or keycards that make hotel sex so special, either.

The survey found there are actually quite a few reasons why sex is better in hotels, Thrillist reports. One common cause is the newness factor. Stepping away from your own bedroom and staying somewhere new is exciting, which translates to more excitement in the bedroom. Other research also shows that there’s a rush of dopamine when people have sex in hotels, according to HuffPost. Dopamine is a chemical that mediates pleasure in the brain, meaning it releases while experiencing things like sex and food, among others. Check out these 31 mother natural libido boosters for better sex.

In addition to the extra dopamine, it’s also important to consider that hotel rooms could mean couples are vacationing and taking a break from anxiety or stress, which are known to dampen your sex drive. The Hotel Tonight survey also found that the privacy of a hotel room makes the experience more relaxing and enjoyable. There’s a lot less stress knowing hotel staff will honor a “do not disturb” sign.

Non-couples are catching onto this trend, too—including hotels. Just look at Japan’s “love hotels” where partners can do short stays and enjoy extreme privacy. Relationship therapist Marissa Nelson even uses vacationing to help heal marriages that are in trouble. Her business, Intimacy Moons, takes couples on vacation to Barbados for a few days, where they have a chance to reconnect, unwind, attend counseling sessions—and be intimate if they choose. Here are 12 more things sex therapists wish you knew.

A change of scenery, privacy, and stepping away from day-to-day stress all contribute to peoples’ love of hotel room sex. It is possible, however, to find creative ways to spice up your sex life without booking a hotel room. Don’t miss these 48 simple ways to spice up your sex life.

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Emily DiNuzzo
Emily DiNuzzo is the former associate editor at The Healthy and a former assistant staff writer at Reader's Digest. Her work has appeared online at the Food Network and Well + Good and in print at Westchester Magazine, and more. When she's not writing about food and health with a cuppa by her side, you can find her lifting heavy things at the gym, listening to murder mystery podcasts, and liking one too many astrology memes.